THE SEXUALIZATION OF EARLY CHILDHOOD
Sexualization
of early childhood is one of the most complicated issues that touch the lives
of our young children. This is something
that is not taught in the classroom and surely wouldn’t be found in a
curriculum. In today’s society, as
educators we encounter more and more issues of homosexuality (gay/lesbian
families; masculinity in a child’s sex role; or dealing with aspects of
femininity/masculinity) and that’s something we have to deal with. There are biases in the classroom, children
considered to be tomboy or sissies by other children and we must be there to
handle such a situation of harassment.
Classrooms are full of children that have to challenge the negative
remarks and bullying and we wonder why so much is happening in the class.
I
have a little girl in the classroom and she has a sister in the middle school,
around the age of thirteen. On this
particular day, Judy comes to me and told me that her sister had a 13th
birthday party. She said Ms. Adams, you
should have been there, the girls had tiny skirts on and wearing makeup. This party also included boys that were much
older and very little parent involvement.
She saw the boys touching the girls, standing to close, and some even
trying to look under their skirts. I listen to some parents when they make the
statement, “our children know they are growing up fast”, I wonder why?
Another
example that illustrates the exposure of young children to a highly sexualized
environment would be the language I hear boy and girls talk in and out the
classroom. This six year old girl amazed
me when she used the sex word and I always say be careful what you say and do
around children. She begin to walk down
the hall and as I stood to the side and watched her she quickly grab a little
boy penis. I came forward and asked her why she did she do that and she
responded because it was on TV. I pulled
her to the side and told her not to do it anymore; she’s just a child and act
like one. Many children are exposed to sexual messages through the media,
cultures and parents.
The third
example comes when me and my best friend was out for lunch, along with her two
year old son. While sitting at the table
and looking over the menu, her baby starts to cry and she knew he was hungry. She gradually pulls her blouse up and put a
cover over her breast and let her baby suck her milk. The two year old starts to star and looks at
her and looks back down at the baby covered up and sucking the breast. He gradually and slowly pulls up the shirt,
because he becomes aware that something is going on under there. This is very normal with a little child being
curious and looking at his mother finding a way to sooth his brother crying.
I noticed
there are kids that expose themselves to television and radio and that’s the
way they value themselves. Many develop
low self-esteem, don’t care about anyone else, and don’t respect each other
with bad language. There are many ways
you can help students struggle with this kind of sexual communication. The school district has a policy for children
to wear uniforms every day, from elementary to high school. For this reason, one child can’t be jealous
of the other about the clothing they’re wearing and this also help the little
girls when they’re out playing and don’t have to worry about playing on the
monkey bar or slide.
Another idea
would be to add such gender roles into the school curriculum. We should be able to ensure that the parents
become involved and more importantly, is able to open up and communicate
whenever needed. As an educator, we need
to talk openly to our children about a caring relationship and make sure they
are provided with age-appropriate material that will help them explore in a
safe environment. There is so much
negative and sexual advances in the media today and as a whole.
Ways in which
my awareness of the sexualization of early childhood has been influenced by
study the topic this week would be I’m really not surprised about this
over-sexualized world. When I was
growing up, I could hear songs by Prince and other music artists and would sing
alone without a care in the world. But
this topic has really influenced my way of viewing myself in the world and the
upbringing of children today.